When it comes to making love, women are generally more into the fantasy aspect of the erotic build-up than they are the simple thrill of getting undressed with someone they know and love (or maybe DON’T know and/or love) like most of us guys.. So how to make a girl erotic in a way that we really want her to be? Well, enticing a woman to yield to your deepest and most secret desires requires that you gradually draw her into your worldview by making yourself into a unique High Value Lover, and then doing so again and again on a consistent basis until you secure her complete and total enchantment. At that point, like it or not, she’s yours.
You weave this seductive magic by CUSTOMIZING each and every experience in bed for her based on some careful investigation on your part. Great sex for most women can be defined as erotic in a way that she doesn’t consider inappropriately perverted with a man who has learned to deliver the goods in a way that she enjoys, time after time. Imposing task? Not necessarily. Here’s a three step plan to help you navigate this special road into the erotic heart of any woman…
1) Search For Her Erotic Weaknesses
The first step is to figure out what sort of cheap sex tricks will send any particular girl into orbit. How?… Experiment! Maybe she likes to be dirty-talked or verbally coaxed? Perhaps she wants you to control her in some way? Or maybe she wants to control YOU? Try all sorts of things with her… spanking, tickling, toys, take some nasty pictures, do it out in the bushes, try some stuff in the shower, swap positions, etc. Use your porno powers here that you’ve spent years (likely all by yourself) “cultivating”. Some of this mayhem may turn her off, but there’s usually SOMETHING that will get a woman red-lining off the meter — and it’s your job to discover what that is and then learn how to play it like a fiddle!
If she refuses to go very much beyond plain vanilla missionary-style, then you may have run across a chick with low sex drive or other pressing issues on her mind that she feels must be more important. Rather than be angry about it, count your blessings. It’s fortunate to uncover such crucial knowledge of incompatibility about a partner as soon as possible because it will head off a ton of future misery. Turning someone this sexually uninterested towards your more open-minded, erotically-experimental direction can be an impossible task. I’ve always felt that the best sex occurs between two child-like adults, and by that I mean people who don’t take themselves too seriously. At least not to the point where they feel sex has become “kid stuff” and somehow beneath their dignity. People who’ve taken on too much responsibility in life are likely to end up this way by middle-age. Just a warning.
Anyway, regular work between the sheets will eventually uncover where all her high water marks are located, and her limits as well. Keep notes on what you’re doing to make a girl erotic and of her reactions to your experimental prodding — silly as this may sound. After you fill a few pages of such notes, go back and search for clues. Look for those things that she seems to enjoy the most and figure out a few clever ways to focus in on them.
Now you’re ready to lock her Heart up tight, and lock Yourself into the drivers’ seat!
2) Become Her “Drug” Based on that Weakness
Once you think you have some idea of what a woman’s erotic weaknesses could be (in the sense that she has an intense desire or a “weakness” for certain sorts of positions, fetishes, fantasies, etc.) then you’re ready to zoom in on them, expand upon whatever they may be and make them more elaborate. The idea is to become really good at delivering the best CUSTOM sexual experience that she’s ever had… and do so time after time.
If she wonders what the deal is with your sudden enthusiasm, just tell her that she makes you feel uninhibited like no woman ever has before. This freaks many girls out because most women think that all guys are natural sex-fiends to some degree and don’t realize that it often takes someone SPECIAL to actually bring this quality out in them…
And for you, that person is HER!
Such an attempt to reach out and connect your soul with hers through raw physical pleasure makes a powerful impact that cannot be easily dismissed. The rush of adrenaline that accompanies such feelings will serve to weld these unique moments deep into her unconscious mind. And they will all be connected to YOU… you will always be “that guy” who did “that thing” the night you were both together at “that place”. Now you’re beginning to see Romantic Enchantment in action!
3) Get Her Addicted to You
Look, most people pretty much wing it when it comes to sex – they know a few basic moves and make the rest up as they go along. The fact that you have 1) studied your “prey” and determined what really turns her on, and 2) are making an effort to satisfy her in specific ways that tie into these revelations, will surely paint you as a totally different breed of cat.
And that’s good!
Before long you’ll be seen as a champion among all the men she’s known — and really, you’ll hardly have done anything all that amazing. You’ll just be doing things with a little more purpose, direction and creativity than the average Joe. That’s male seductive power in action.
While the task of enchanting a woman is mainly one of carefully feeding her thrills and absorbing her fears based on what you’ve learned from your study of her sexual proclivities, one warning however… never bust this illusion by announcing what you’re up to. Don’t say, “I’m going to make you addicted to me!… ” For that matter, NEVER reveal that you’re actually seducing a woman either. Once people begin to think they’re being manipulated they will throw up massive resistance.
Like a stage magician, a trick is only cool as long as you never reveal how it works. If you show the audience how the string runs up your sleeve they’ll think ‘oh, that trick was easy’, and then suddenly the whole thing sucks.
As for technique, that’s simple… women just love for men to TALK IT UP in bed!
What exactly to say, what’s your angle? Work up the not-so-obvious: tell her all the enticing stuff she longs to hear, but never ever expects to. Tell an older woman that she’s TIGHT like a young chick. Rave about a thick girl’s voluptuous body. Tell a 25 year old she has a sultriness that belies her real age — one that makes her seem more like an experienced middle-aged seductress. Mention to a skinny girl that her long arms make her look like a statue in an art museum, or that you absolutely LOVE the way that her shoulder blades form little angel wings. Skinny girls often think they’re not all that sexy because they don’t have enough curves. Not as far as YOU’RE concerned, though… you love it!
Notice the pattern here?…
No one wants to be themselves! Especially women: they all want to be younger or older or shaped differently or whatever… anything but plain old them! This is why you need to think up a new TWIST every time that you make love to a girl — so it appears as if you are unraveling her bit-by-bit like a delicate flower, each layer more wonderful than the last! And you are the very FIRST guy to ever see her in this way… as this fantasy creature that she never dared dream of being. Only YOU can see through the ordinary and view the extraordinary in her!
Few women can resist this sort of lavish attention spilling forth from their lover… it’s intoxicating! This is how you make your girl more erotic and more fun in bed: by deliberate action rather than relying on dumb luck to steer you into the theoretical “right person” who just happens to have a sexual compatibility that matches your own.
You need to mold and shape the person that you’re already with into that right person through your deliberate actions.
This is also the way to establish a position of POWER for yourself in all your relationships — a way to have women “eating out of your hand” before very long. This is not achieved with the vinegar of nagging and begging, but with the Honey of your presenting to her a rare and unique sensuality that she’s unlikely to ever find in the arms of any other man…
It’s all done by becoming her sweetest addiction!
Mike Pilinski is the author of 2 classic books in the men’s dating market… his highly-acclaimed original, “Without Embarrassment” and his follow-up: “She’s Yours For The Taking”. Each of these 250+ page books, newly upgraded and revised, are a masterful education for all guys in the fine art of meeting, dating and seducing women.